Tuesday, September 11, 2012

A Life Lesson....in a quiet conversation

There are moments in life that make you stop and think about what it all means....the important things, the things that don't matter, and the things that you want to hold on to forever because they matter just that much....

Yesterday morning, I had dropped the big kids off and school and headed to the grocery with Liam.

We hurried along through the store...there was so much I needed to get done.
After the shopping was finished, I pushed to cart out to the car and unloaded the groceries, thankful for the empty parking spot beside us that would make it easier for me to buckle Liam in his carseat.

As I was getting him buckled in, I looked up to notice a big truck waiting to pull into the spot next to us. I had Liam's door wide open and I knew the truck couldn't pull in because of it, so I put up my hand and mouthed, "sorry!" and I hurried to get him buckled.
I couldn't see the driver's face, the sun was shining so bright on his windshield, but after I quickly got Liam buckled I hopped in the front seat and shut my door. The truck pulled in and I began to back out of my parking spot. As I started to move, there was a tap on my window. I looked up to see an elderly man with kind eyes and a sweet smile.
I had seen him before around town, sometimes sitting on a bench outside of a store, sometimes waiting for his medicine at the pharmacy. Every time I saw him before, he would smile like we were old friends and wish me a good day. I didn't know his name, but I knew I liked him.

So, this was the man in the truck waiting for the parking spot, and now he was at my window.

I rolled the window down and this is the conversation we had, 

You know I'm not in any hurry, that baby of yours is way more important than I'll ever be.

Oh, thank you! I just didn't want you to have to wait. Sometimes people can get so upset when I have the door open like that.

Well, here's what I know. Getting that baby buckled up is more important than me getting in that parking space. Sometimes I see people in such a hurry and I wonder why they are rushing about so. You know when people get to talking about being in a hurry or talking about money you know what I say to them?
I just tell them I've got lots of time and lots of money.
They look at me like I am crazy, or like I'm showing off.
I'm not rich, I just know that I have everything I need for today, and today is all that matters.

Oh, how true that is. I should remember that.

Well, I'm telling you that for a lesson. I'm just an old man but I know some things. {then he laughed a little}
Yesterday is already done, and we are never promised tomorrow so today is all that matters.
You remember that now, okay?

Yes sir, I will. Thank you for sharing that with me, it really means a lot.

Well, now, you take care, okay, honey. God bless you.

I watched him walk off, he was wiping his eyes. 

What he said in that quiet conversation mattered to him, and boy, did it ever matter to me!

In all the hurry of trying to get Liam buckled up, I didn't give my sweet baby boy a kiss.
I always do that once I have him in his seat, well...mostly because it's the only time he holds still anymore. But really I just know that anything could happen, and I just want to kiss his sweet little face before we go anywhere. 

So, before I pulled out of that parking lot, I stopped and kissed that sweet baby of mine and thanked God for life lessons in the middle of Kroger parking lots.

And I thanked God for that man with the kind eyes and sweet smile too.

The next time I see him sitting on a bench somewhere, I will stop and sit with him too.
I'll remind him of what he told me, and I'll tell him how much it mattered.

On a day like today, when all over the world we are remembering what we were doing when we heard about that first plane hitting the World Trade Center, I will also remember that today is the only day that matters.

Hug your kids, tell your husband or wife that they matter and that you love them...

If you know me at all, you will know that I am a very sentimental girl. I sometimes carry the hurts of the world around with me like a blanket, but only for a little while. I know who to give those hurts to, and also who to thank for all the blessings.

No sweeter words ever spoken....

Thank you for letting me get this all out...I know I'll need to come back and read it again when I forget the lesson I learned. But it's here now, and maybe you needed to read it just as much as I needed to write it.

Thank you for being here, and just in case you didn't know.....
YOU matter to me.


  1. So Beautiful and Such Perfect Timing For A Day of Remembrance, Like Today!
    God Bless You & A Thousand Thank Yous For Sharing Your Special Insight On Life With Each Of Us!!!!

  2. amazing !!! so true and so needed for me!

  3. Such a blessing!! We miss so many because we are in such a hurry. A great reminder to just be still and know I AM GOD!!!!!! You will be a blessing to this many also!!!

  4. love you carmella...big hug...i hope i remember this too...thank you for sharing...and tell your new friend we all said hello and thank you.

  5. That was beautiful Carmella. What a precious moment. Thanks for sharing it with us.


  6. Well, now you have me blubbering. So beautiful. Isn't it great that all the while Satan is walking around, God is here, too, and He's bigger. Thank you. xoxo Lori

  7. What a sweet story! Such a great reminder that our actions, of kindness or otherwise, can have such an impact on others! Thank you for sharing this story today. It's a great reminder for all of us. :)

  8. Girl...oh girl...you're just as beautiful as you describe this man, who clearly is here and serving his purpose! Beautiful, PS: my tissue box is green. xo

  9. Oh Carmella....I love you! What a wonderful thing for that man to do, and what a wonderful thing for you to share with all of us! Thank you and have a blessed day!

  10. What an absolutely wonderful post!! And such a timely reminder for me, as I rush about trying to do everything and never feeling like I have enough time. Thank you for allowing God to speak through you to my heart. You're blessing more people than you know!

  11. Thank you so much for sharing this! I needed it. It is so easy to get caught up in the moment and forget the little things are the big things. Thank you again!

  12. Boy o boy, I needed this. I really need this everyday. Isn't is wonderful how God works to speak to us? :)

  13. That is such a wonderful story! What an incredible gentleman to stop and talk to you and give you this important life lesson. It isn't very often we run across people like this.

  14. And now I'm wiping tears from my eyes. It is so true, what he said. I have been trying to teach myself this the last few months. Thanks for sharing. Have a great day.

  15. God bless! That was lovely and made a necessary pause in my day :)

  16. Oh, Carmella...thank you so much for reminding me to "be still". This has been such an area that I struggle with, even though I know it is so much better for me. God put this man in your life at just the right time...can you send him my way? ;) I will remember this story and re-read it from time to time, when I need to be reminded. Blessings ~~ Robyne ~~

  17. As with many of the others who commented, this is just what I needed to be reminded of today. And, isn't it amazing that because it IS 9/11/1, we will probably ALL remember this one!! Am always amazed at how God works those little details out. This is one I'm keeping to re-read many times. Thank you for sharing God's gentle reminder of how we need to be still and listen to God's still small voice. Thank you Carmella for allowing God's word to reach us through you. Katy Lamb

  18. Blessed is what comes to my mind. You are such a blessing to me with your words, your scripture postings and your constant reminders. I love the way God is using you. Your timing isn't a coincidence because it's all in His great plan. Thank you for this wonderful reminder. I'm positive I'll come back and read this over and over again because it's easy to get caught up in life's daily grind and forget what really matters. You touched my heart tonight and for that I'm thankful.

  19. Awesome post. Totally awesome experience. You should repost this at least once a month - I need it!!

  20. truly amazing! Thank you for sharing with us! I am always worry about the people in the parking lot waiting for me to buckle my Joey! Hopefully they were/are/will be as nice and thoughtful as your new friend! :)
    You made my night! xo, good night!

  21. I love when God gives us just we need to hear! Thank you!

  22. Love you so much dear friend! You have made me cry yet again! :) Then I, of course smiled at that sweet Liam dimple that I love so much! Thank you for sharing this beautiful, thought-evoking post!


  23. I'm so glad I checked in once more before bad. That was lovely. I completely teared up. He is so right and those moments are what shape our lives and what truly matters!

    And yeah, Liam deserves kisses ever time :) I hope you see that sweet old man soon.

  24. I'm in tears Carmella, this is so poignant today out of all days. I want you to know that you blessed me with this reminder; God is in control, and He loves us. So I want you to know that YOU matter to me! Thank you for sharing this!
    XO, Barbara at Chase the Star

  25. These are some of the best moments in life and they always see to happen just when you need them.
    Thank you so much for sharing!

  26. This was a perfect post. Thank you for the reminder. It came at a perfect time for me. Give that sweet old man an extra hug for me when you see him around town next time. (I DO have a fondness for sweet old men, I admit!)

  27. Carmella you have such a lovely sweet spirit. This is a beautiful story. You know that man could see how special you are and that you would take the time to listen to him. To often the older, wiser, of us get brushed off as out of date. I'm glad you see the value of their lives and shared his wisdom with us.

  28. That is such and amazing interaction you had. And such a great reminder for all of us :)

  29. Carmella, this is such a beautiful post. What an important message for every one of us. I know I tend to get caught up in worrying about the future instead of enjoying the "today." Thanks for sharing this with all of us who are blessed to call you friend.

  30. What an incredible message that is and from such a wise man, I can only imagine what one can learn from him from a conversation ove coffee. Thank you for sharing the message

  31. Oh my...that TRULY made my day. It really is the little things in life that we take for granted, and I do agree that life 'puts' us in a hurry as well.
    Thank you for this post. I wish I could hug you and this little old man, as well. What a blessing.
    New follower!

  32. That was an absolutely precious story. I had to come back and read it again. Thank you for sharing!!!!

  33. Awww.. that is so sweet! It's both strange and heartening to know that there are people out in the world, whom we don't even know and who are ready to help us in some way or the other. There ARE good people, though rare!

  34. Aw, that's awesome, Carmella. What a special experience!


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